Trust your instincts
This is the most important part, you will know in yourself something is wrong even before any tell tell signs start appearing. Don’t let him convince you its all in your head. Women have a great sense for these things so trust in it.
Don’t confront him too soon
If you really want to know then the time between you suspecting him and you confronting him is precious. This time can be used to observe and investigate before he starts being defensive.
Look, Listen, Smell
Look: Take note of his appearance, what is he wearing and does it make sense. How is he acting, has he changed his habits or work routine. Keep note of what you see and write it down. Make sure he never sees your notes.
Listen: Listen for inconsistencies in stories even if minor, these can be tell tell signs of a larger lie. Does he refuse to discuss some issues.
Smell: Does he smell different, has he suddenly started using cologne and when does he wear it. Do you smell weird scents on his cloths or in his car.
Pay attention
Pay attention to every detail each day, some things may seem minor at the time but in the larger context start to make sense. Keeping track of all these things over time in a diary can let you see this bigger picture much easier. People remember the truth much better than the lies. He may have his story perfect on the day but the mistakes creep in over time, be prepared to notice these cracks in the story.
Keep a diary
Keep a diary of all you find, even if it seems meaningless if you noticed it there could be a reason.
Be careful
Don’t let him know what you are doing, he will go on the defensive if he is cheating and if he is not he will be hurt or angry. Don’t confront him till you have proof to back it. If you want to check his phone or go through his things be sure you wont be caught, put everything back in its place.
The big day
If it turns out he was cheating or you have very good case to believe i, its time to plan the confrontation. Know what you are going to say, know what you are going to do. Do you still want them? Can you trust them? Think over these issues and don’t let him sweet talk you out of your decisions.
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